I was reading some comments to a Dr. Helen post, and there was this GEM of a comment by Rob Fedders. In it, he gives us the lowdown on male/female interactions and relationships. He takes the contents of entire books, and distills their essential message to a few paragraphs. Thank you, Mr. Fedders! This is good stuff...
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Very few women are capable of empathizing with men. There are about as many women who have the ability to empathize with men as there are children capable of empathizing with adults.
This is what most men fail to grasp, and why they go round and round in circles trying to "explain things" to women.
Women just don't care. We are here for their purposes, not ours.
"Women have no sympathy... And my experience of women is almost as large as Europe. And it is so intimate too. Women crave for being loved, not for loving. They scream at you for sympathy all day long, they are incapable of giving you any in return for they cannot remember your affairs long enough to do so." -- Florence Nightingale
Esther Villar says about the same thing, over and over again, in her book "The Manipulated Man."
What men don't "get" is that we (men) are a "business" to women. The attention women can get from men is their survival tactic. It does not mesh with the male survival drive, which is "go get" or "go create." Sadly, we men have a hard time understanding that women rarely have the same desires as we do.
This is what most men fail to grasp, and why they go round and round in circles trying to "explain things" to women.
Women just don't care. We are here for their purposes, not ours.
"Women have no sympathy... And my experience of women is almost as large as Europe. And it is so intimate too. Women crave for being loved, not for loving. They scream at you for sympathy all day long, they are incapable of giving you any in return for they cannot remember your affairs long enough to do so." -- Florence Nightingale
Esther Villar says about the same thing, over and over again, in her book "The Manipulated Man."
What men don't "get" is that we (men) are a "business" to women. The attention women can get from men is their survival tactic. It does not mesh with the male survival drive, which is "go get" or "go create." Sadly, we men have a hard time understanding that women rarely have the same desires as we do.
That is why women ALWAYS marry up-always! Since we're a 'business' for women, marrying down wouldn't make sense as an economic or business model.
Women are designed by nature to look "yummy" to us so that we will give of ourselves to women. This is nature. It is not nature for it to occur the other way around.
I remember Christopher from Oregon making the same point. He said that Nature would make women look beautiful, so that we'd breed with them; it's all about Nature getting us to breed-end of story. It's Nature's way of getting us to do something against our best interest-committing to a woman long term.
It works the same way as with women and children. Children will rarely care for the mother the way that the mother will care for the child. Children are not designed to empathize with mothers in the same way that mothers are designed to empathize with their children.
Women will never "care" about men in the same way that men "care" about the wellbeing of women.
We are both designed this way by nature. It has always been women who have walked out on men more than the other way around... it has always been women that have been more opposed to adultery laws than men... the 10% of children are the result of cuckolding is supposedly a fairly consistent stat over time/history/populations.
We are designed like this by nature, and men who are sitting around and waiting for women to smarten up and show men the proper amount of empathy/sympathy are being no more intelligent than a mother sitting down and crossing her arms until her children show a reciprocal amount of empathy for her... both will be sitting there for a looooong time.
You can even see how this works with the way that men and women buy family vehicles. The wife and kids are always put in the best vehicle/mini-van/SUV as possible to "protect them" etc. etc. while the husband drives the run-down piece of crap to work... when the time comes that the husband gets a second vehicle you can usually hear the wife chirping in, "We had to get Joe a new truck... because the last one wasn't safe and we don't know what we would do if something happened to him.
That's the way it has always been and the way it will likely always be. Men are a tool to women... a "business." And to successfully work that business, they must always appear in the needy/attention category. Babies who don't cry don't get milk... and women who don't get attention don't get taken care of by men. It is an innate feature of humans.
Women do control society's values and mores... they lead with what they think is fashionable, and men follow, because by nature we are designed to give women what they want.
Women "are" society. What women's wants are is what society's want's are. This is where women are lying when they talk about the dreaded "patriarchy." The patriarchy only existed because women explicitly approved of it, and endorsed it morally - causing the men to follow suit.
This is what is happening today too. Most of the anti-feminist battle is not going to be between men and women... it is going to be between women who want a "traditional man" and those who want a collective "government husband." In both cases, the women are advocating for men to take care of women - with little concern for the man's wants and needs - one wants a personal slave to serve her & her offspring, while the other wants a slave class to serve women and their offspring in general.
It's the way human beings are designed. Who cares whether women rule, or if they rule the rulers? The result is the same.
It's not going to change.
These are the types of factors that have to be taken into account every time someone starts advocating for "change" or even worse, "equality." (GAK!)
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Good stuff, wouldn't you agree? If we wait for women to empathize with us Fellas, we'll be waiting a LONG, long time! Here's a better idea: GYOW, and live life the way YOU want to, not as some woman's tool. Have a good day now...
MarkyMark
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The Manipulated Man should be mandatory reading for all men. Another book that is way high on my list as re the male/female dynamic is The Woman Racket by Steve Moxon. If you want the real science behind male & female social behavior, read that book! It covers why men and women working together act the way they do. For example, did you know that it has been proven (seriously...a proven fact) that companies with HR departments headed by women demonstrate a hiring bias against hiring men, even when they're higher qualified than female applicants? Team Vagina is no joke; women are biologically driven to favor other females, provided mate-seeking available males doesn't enter into the picture. Then female rivalry rears its ugly head. But women in companies will literally favor an all-female environment, despite when that happens, women work less effectively together and normally prefer working for male superiors.
RUN HAMSTER, RUN!
@ZorroPrimo Kinda sucks when the shoe is on the other foot, doesn't it?
You're correct. Most women prefer working for male "superiors." I think my all time favorite was the male superior I had at one job who liked to pat me on the head regularly. Yeah...that was swell.
have a look at this,
GRAPHIC IMAGE!
Men love ... women pretend.
Hey! I guess I'm the exception of the rule!
B. W.
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