I was reading Dr. Helen's most recent post (the one for 8 Mar 2011), and there was a comment by EN that I liked. EN shares his observations of women...
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As a 58-year-old man who was married for 30 years and divorced my ex 6 years ago, my take is similar to that of other men. Some observations.
1. Women within my lifespan weren't happy in the dark days of the 1950s, 60s, 70s, 80s, 90s... and here we are. It's always the fault of men and they will weepily tell you that, "he used me and cheated on me" ("gosh, over and over and over, you have such bad luck with scumbags. I can't for the life of me figure out why you're so unlucky."). I've known since I was about five years old and listening to my mom that there's never been a strong line between what woman say and what they do. And there's never a woman so unhappy as the one who gets what they say they wanted. An unhappy woman is like granite, only they don't live long enough to changed much by time. Always look to her habits lads, not the ones she says she has, but the ones she actually has. When a woman starts talking about what she wants or expects, it should be like bees buzzing so as not to confuse you. Their world is not bad, just different.
2. Men have it easier than ever. There's simply no need to work too hard for a woman. In fact, it works against you if you do try hard. I would guess that close to 70 percent of the woman I meet are so self loathing as to find any man who would court them, honor them and cherish them as an unworthy tool, as in, "If you think I'm special you're cute, but obviously an idiot". Men who treat them with respect will be treated like a favorite poodle, while guys in dirty tee shirts and a bag full of condoms who do not treat them well will enjoy the more carnal pleasures. It's a simple matter of tee-shirt boy is the one who really understands them, and that's what you lads need to understand. It's not bad or good, just the way it is.
Never forget the serious disconnect between what a woman says and what she does, especially if you like her. In fact, if a woman tells me she likes candle lit dinners and long witty conversations, I immediately assume she prefers her sex in the car on the way home from work, so she can get their in time to watch Grey's Anatomy and talk to her sister on the phone. Embrace the contradiction.
The other 30 percent I know are married and not in my sample. But if I had to guess about them we'd have to back to point one.
1. Women within my lifespan weren't happy in the dark days of the 1950s, 60s, 70s, 80s, 90s... and here we are. It's always the fault of men and they will weepily tell you that, "he used me and cheated on me" ("gosh, over and over and over, you have such bad luck with scumbags. I can't for the life of me figure out why you're so unlucky."). I've known since I was about five years old and listening to my mom that there's never been a strong line between what woman say and what they do. And there's never a woman so unhappy as the one who gets what they say they wanted. An unhappy woman is like granite, only they don't live long enough to changed much by time. Always look to her habits lads, not the ones she says she has, but the ones she actually has. When a woman starts talking about what she wants or expects, it should be like bees buzzing so as not to confuse you. Their world is not bad, just different.
2. Men have it easier than ever. There's simply no need to work too hard for a woman. In fact, it works against you if you do try hard. I would guess that close to 70 percent of the woman I meet are so self loathing as to find any man who would court them, honor them and cherish them as an unworthy tool, as in, "If you think I'm special you're cute, but obviously an idiot". Men who treat them with respect will be treated like a favorite poodle, while guys in dirty tee shirts and a bag full of condoms who do not treat them well will enjoy the more carnal pleasures. It's a simple matter of tee-shirt boy is the one who really understands them, and that's what you lads need to understand. It's not bad or good, just the way it is.
Never forget the serious disconnect between what a woman says and what she does, especially if you like her. In fact, if a woman tells me she likes candle lit dinners and long witty conversations, I immediately assume she prefers her sex in the car on the way home from work, so she can get their in time to watch Grey's Anatomy and talk to her sister on the phone. Embrace the contradiction.
The other 30 percent I know are married and not in my sample. But if I had to guess about them we'd have to back to point one.
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Good stuff, would you not agree? Until next time...
MarkyMark
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