27 April 2013

Where Have All The Ladies Gone?


I saw this piece on townhall.com, and I just HAD to comment on it! Stand by for my commentary and analysis...


As our society abandons the conservative values that make women into ladies, women with grace and dignity have become an endangered species—especially on today’s college campuses. The kind of woman who inspired Tom Jones’ song “She’s a Lady” has become an antiquated figure from America’s past. Most popular songs about women today are more like “Youse a Ho” by Ludacris.

Ladies have become an endangered species? How 'bout trying all but extinct! Yeah, there are a few ladies out there, but they're so rare that they make gold look as plentiful as sand on a beach. Furthermore, those few ladies out there are taken anyway. No modern guy has a prayer of finding a traditional woman who will love and care for her man-not a prayer!

As for Lucacris' song, "Youse a Ho", it seems to me that he's speaking the truth about what's out there. Women are whores! Look at how they dress, act, and talk. Sheesh, they'd make a sailor blush! I ought to know; I was a sailor. Seems to me that Ludacris, Two Live Crew, and other rappers know the REAL DEAL on women. People don't like the message because it's blunt and true...

I am often surprised by the social behavior of certain young women who call themselves conservative. Conservatism is not just an ideology; it is a lifestyle. On college campuses telling the difference between liberal and conservative women is nearly impossible when they behave in an equally undignified manner. Conservative women should display their values through their lifestyle. This means acting like ladies, because the difference between conservative and liberal women should not just be the way we vote.

It's like I often say: good women do little or nothing to distinguish themselves from bad women. Ergo, from where I sit, I have to assume that all women are bad. Sadly, I'll most likely be right.

The feminist movement’s war on conservatism in America has killed chivalry and trained too many women to think and act like men. As a result, many young conservative women do not know what it means to be a lady. Here is a good definition: A lady does not tell dirty jokes along with men and she does not tolerate men telling dirty jokes in her presence. She does not swear, and she is not considered “one of the guys.” In spite of new fashion trends, a lady always dresses appropriately, leaving a lot to the imagination. When at a social gathering, a lady does not do things she will regret the next day. Above all, a lady is well-mannered, dignified, gracious, and kind.

Feminism didn't kill chivalry; you women who BOUGHT IN to feminism killed chivalry! Let's get it right, shall we? Though feminism had sponsorship from the Elites of the world, it wouldn't have gotten anywhere if women didn't BUY IN to it. You women bought in to feminism; you women blamed us for oppressing you and demaning you with chivalry; so, we stopped treating you like ladies-duh! Then again, in order to treat a woman like a lady, she has to BE one in the first place...

Oh, and as for women acting like men, why couldn't they have acted like GENTELMEN, hmmm? I was just wonering...

As for your list of what make a lady, let me say this: even using your modest list, you've disqualified almost ALL American women! If not for a true lady I see at work, I would be hard pressed to tell you the last time I saw one; I'm serious! Furthermore, if I go back a decade or so, I could count the number of bona fide ladies I've met and known on one hand, and still have fingers left.

Our society holds conservatives to a higher moral standard. When a woman acts like a lady she gains the respect both of men and other women. Besides, why would a conservative woman ever want to be mistaken for a liberal woman?

I don't know; you tell me.

I have heard many of my male peers place women into three categories: “the ones to mess around with, the ones to date, and the ones to marry.” Though this is a rather crude way of categorizing women, it shows that men do recognize and value the qualities that make a woman a lady. Ladies are the kind of women that men can take home to Mom and Dad and that most men want to marry. Being considered “marriage material” is an indicator that a woman is to be respected; most men who deem a woman as such treat her with the utmost respect. For men, ladies are at the top of the female totem pole, and conservative women need to take pride in the fact that they are worthy of time, love, and commitment.

Darlin', I have to correct you; there are only TWO categories of women: those you mess with, and those you date-period. No, let me change that; there are women you mess with, and women you avoid-end of story. There is no dating, because chicks just want to hook up nowadays; you ask a modern girl on a date, she'll look at you like you have two heads! As for women who are 'marriage material', there are no marriageable women in America nowadays. Even if there were, no thinking man will marry them. The divorce laws and family courts make that a rather foolish propostion for a man. Ergo, one cannot have a category for women one would marry.

It is important for a conservative woman to be a lady both in the real world and on the internet. In our social-network-obsessed society, all it takes is a single compromising picture to ruin one’s social and professional reputations. It has become commonplace for young women’s Facebook profiles to be littered with pictures of themselves scantily clad in compromising situations, partying, inebriated, and even kissing other girls. Party girls are a dime a dozen and these profiles damage reputations far more than they help them. A conservative woman should be conservative at all times, especially when the cameras are rolling.

These profiles don't just damage reputations; they EXPOSE them. Oh, how can you tell a conservative woman on "Girls Gone Wild"? When she flips up her top, she exposes her bra, not her bare boobs-ha!

Lately, young women have taken to denigrating themselves and each other as “sluts” and “hos.” When women playfully call each other these things they make it okay for men to do it too. Much like the way Eve Ensler and her Vagina Monologues “reclaimed” the c-word, women on college campuses are reclaiming “slut.” I have seen many young women sporting “slut” backpack patches, and drinking from party cups with “slut” scribbled across the side. “Reclaiming” demeaning words does not empower women, and it certainly does not dilute their original meaning. With all of these self-proclaimed “sluts” on college campuses, conservative women should refrain from partaking in this trend and insist on calling themselves, and acting, like ladies.

When women call each other bitches, sluts, and whores, they're only telling the truth about themselves. When a woman has one of the aforementioned words on her backpack, she's telling me ahead of time what kind of person she is. Thanks to her advertising, I know who to stay away from. Conversely, if a guy does get involved with her, it's only for a pump & dump, which is all such a woman is good for; after all, she had 'whore' emblazoned on her shirt or backpack, right?

As a teenager when I left my parents’ house to go out with friends, the last thing my dad always told me was, “Act like a lady!” At the time, I saw those parting words as a lack of trust, but I now recognize that his words were meant to be in the back of my head the whole night—and they always were. My dad no longer has to remind me to act like a lady whenever I am out; his words are engraved in my heart and mind and constantly keep me in check. It is about time that somebody told all conservative young women to “act like ladies."

The only problem is that many girls no longer have fathers. Thanks to her mother divorcing her dad and kicking him out of the house (thanks to the help of Big Brother Government), most girls no longer have fathers to exhort & admonish them to act like ladies. Who's going to tell her to act like a lady? Her despicable whore of a mom? Come on!


That concludes my analysis of this piece. I didn't do a very good job today; I wasn't on top of my game at all. I'll try to do better next time...



Anonymous said...

The only problem is that many girls no longer have fathers. Thanks to her mother divorcing her dad and kicking him out of the house (thanks to the help of Big Brother Government), most girls no longer have fathers to exhort & admonish them to act like ladies. Who's going to tell her to act like a lady? Her despicable whore of a mom? Come on!

Pulitzer. Right there.

Wavmaster said...

You know what? I just don't care anymore. I've lived in central Europe on and off for the past 4.5 years and can tell you women over here are the best you will ever find anywhere. At least I think so. They are pretty, feminine, domesticated, agreeable, wear nice clothes and know how to cook! Hell, I can go on and on. It's hard not to walk around here and not get a boner. When I came back to Canada for a visit, I was all whiskey dick. Their looks and attitude killed it. The ladies can be found anywhere but in the West.

Sophia said...

This writer would not consider me a lady, even though I dress appropriately and I'm kind/gracious/etc because I also tell dirty jokes, play videogames, go to movies/conventions with guys. I find it strange that this author seems to think being a tomboy and being a good, moral person is impossible.

If it were true, what would it mean for men? In this person's mind, do "real" men ALSO not tell dirty jokes or drink? Are only ladies gracious/well mannered/etc? That seems sexist, at the least.

Anonymous said...

Solipsism alert from Sophia but I'll bite.

Ladies don't tell dirty jokes because it's unladylike. Tomboys aren't ladies by mere definition. You cannot be a tomboy and a lady. They are completely mutually exclusive.

In addition, women do not get to categorize other women as ladies. Just like measuring attractiveness, only men get to determine whether you are or not.

Sophia said...

Ah, ok. Like how only women (and gays) can determine what is attractive in a man or what makes them a "gentleman".
Got it.

Maybe someone here can give the MRA definition of solipsism, because I've seen it lobbed around numerous times and the real definition doesn't match with how it gets used.

Epistemological solipsism says that anything in the material world, including other people, cannot be shown to exist outside of one's own mind with 100% certainty. Solipsism from a metaphysical view goes even farther and postulates that other minds, and the world at large, do not exist. (Kind of like how there are agnostic atheists and gnostic atheists.)

I do not subscribe to either one of these viewpoints, and in fact find it enjoyable to learn from another's necessarily personal experiences. From what I've seen of claims of solipsism on internet forums/blogs, it is less a case of actual Solipsism and more an accusation of someone giving "too much" credence to individual experience. I find this to be odd, as one can certainly sympathize and appreciate another's point of view, but we all rely on personal dealings with the world to reach our conclusions.

After all, humans do not have a hivemind as certain insects do...and even with our great adherence to social structures (like most primates), we are still individuals. Why is it looked down on in certain corners of the web, to speak of individual occurances and reflections?

Mrs. Anna T said...

"as for women acting like men, why couldn't they have acted like GENTELMEN?"

A very good point here... I'm laughing, although it's really not funny.

And yes, it is true many girls grew up without fathers. Myself included. I made mistakes, yes, but I did reclaim womanhood and ladylike behavior, or at least I hope I may be able to say that.

The dating scene today isn't very promising for young men OR women who are interested in no-fooling-around, honest, loyal, conservative marriage. Yet it is possible to find someone suitable. How?

1. Filter, filter, FILTER. Don't offend anyone, but keep focused on what you want to find. Don't be put off by the mighty influx of clearly unsuitable candidates.

2. Know your priorities. Not "he must have an MSc/she must look like such and such", but values like honesty, kindness, reliability, how you relate when it comes to your future, lifestyle, financial responsibility, child-rearing etc.

3. Don't get physically/emotionally involved with unsuitable people. That's how whole lives are wasted.

MarkyMark said...


That is GREAT advice! If more people followed it, the divorce rate would tank overnight...


Sophia said...

I must say, that is tremendously good (and easily usable) advice, Mrs. T!