I was reading through the Don't Marry Archives when I found this gem you're about to read. As always, I added my commentary free of charge... ;)
6 Reasons to NEVER date a Single Mother
Post by Older Bachelor on Dec 13, 2004, 7:40pm
mothers. Well, here are MY issues with them (This pertains to a woman
who had a kid and never married, or divorced her husband because “She
wasn’t happy”. If she had a good marriage and he died, there might be
wiggle room, but I still wouldn’t date her).
She decided to have a kid without a husband. This demonstrates
terrible, selfish values. It also shows that she thinks of men as sperm
donors and child support payers, NOT husbands & fathers. What will
happen if you knock her up? Get ready to pay up for a kid that you won’t
get to be a real dad to.
That alone is bad enough! At the very least, a single mom shows lack of good judgement; otherwise she wouldn't have had sex with a man with whom she was unwilling to have children. They say that, unless you're willing to have CHILDREN with the person (after all, they are a byproduct of the sex act), then you should NOT have sex with the person.
2: In some states, you can be responsible for child support by just
living with her. I don’t want to pay for kids that aren’t mine. Do you?
If you spend enough time with the kid and form a bond with him/her, the law may consider you a 'father figure', and therefore responsible for helping (i.e. pay de facto alimony) to 'raise' the kid.
False allegations of child abuse. It isn’t likely, but I don’t want to
take that chance. Getting branded with a big “M” on your forehead (For
Molester) will WRECK YOUR LIFE. It will never go away. Too big a risk.
What more can I add to that?
Relationship aren’t easy as it is. Add a minor child and it really
complicates the issue. Do you want to deal with her kid(s) too? You
won’t be their dad and they will know it. Their mom already fucked
their life by not having a dad for them, and is fucking it up more by
bringing in “Revolving door boyfriends” into their life.
Man, isn't THAT the truth?!
Lots of single moms have financial problems. You will be obligated to
help pay for sitters, food, braces, on and on. For children that aren’t
yours. Get the credit card out!
I seldom get the credit card out for me; why in blazes would I get it out for some bitch and her womb turds-especially when said womb turds aren't even mine?!
There is NO reason to date one. Millions of women in this country are
single with no kids, and in every age range. Go younger if you have to.
Don’t waste your time with a woman that has PROVEN that she doesn’t want
a husband for her and dad for her kids. Do you think she will change
her mind for you? That she will forget her utter contempt for husbands
and fathers just for you? Sure she will.
run into single mothers once in a while, and when “I have a kid” is
revealed, that’s the end of the conversation for me. I will be polite
but I will still walk off, because I don’t want anything to do with
them. And neither will any other smart man.
I don't know about this; this may be true, but I haven't seen many single, childless women my age or even close to it. Perhaps I'm looking in the wrong places? I was a member of a couple of dating sites, and it seems as if the vast majority of women on there have kids. Maybe that's why they're on dating sites in the first place? I don't know. All I do know is that, once you get past the early 20s women, that the vast majority of the ones I've met, seen, and know have kids.
Having said that, I agree that the smart man will NOT want to have anything to do with a single mom-not for a relationship anyway. Perhaps a pump-n-dump or two are okay, but a relationship with a single mom is out of the question.
thought that was good, necessary reading. My boys out there will
encounter single motners; when they do, they need to know what to do-hit
the 'Eject' button! This piece gives them sound reasons for doing so.
Until next time...