Some time ago, I mentioned the blog, Feminine Mystique. Edita, the site's hostess, has called me a hypocrite more than once because I support traditional patriarchy while telling men to eschew marriage. Though I understand why she says that, I disagree. I don't believe I'm a hypocrite, and here's why...
I do think that traditional marriage and families are best; history has shown that, beyond a doubt, that patriarchy is best for men, women, and children. Back when patriarchal families were the norm in America, the big problems in our schools were chewing gum, running in the hallways, and talking in class; now, they're rape, robbery, murder, extortion, drug use, etc. What society would YOU prefer to live in? I know, and I rest my case!
However, given the realities of Marriage 2.0 and all that goes with it, I cannot, in good conscience, recommend a man marry-not when he can LITERALLY have his life destroyed. Even if he marries someone who seems to be a good, traditional girl, she could befriend a feminist, who fills her head with all sorts of garbage. She could end up turning on her husband, and destroy him in a nasty divorce as a result.
I know that, if men and women don't marry, then they don't form families; if they don't form families, then they have given in to those who would destroy the family for their own, nefarious ends. In a sense, folks who avoid marriage are handing our culture's enemies a victory. I get that.
For me, it's analogous to the the impact of individual vs. collective response to an economic downturn. When the economy is bad, it makes sense on an individual level to cut back; after all, since you don't know if you'll have your job next week, you hang on to money 'just in case'. However, when that sensible, individual decision is multiplied by millions of people, the situation is made worse because 2/3 of our economic activity is dependent on consumer spending. When millions of individual consumers stop spending, the economy gets worse. What makes sense individually can be bad collectively. For me, the conundrum of marriage is like that.
So, what's the answer? I don't know. I am, on one hand, thankful to see women, even non-religious ones, seeking a return to a patriarchal lifestyle; whenever I see that, I'll lend my support. My sister in law is now home with my nieces, and I encourage her whenever I can. However, after having spent a day in family court (when I was falsely accused back in the 1990s), I saw guys get DESTROYED; the judge ruled in favor of women all day long! I saw the same thing in real life too; I've known guys who couldn't take proper care of themselves, simply because their child support payments were too onerous. I guess, in closing, if one is going to marry, be VERY careful about it! However, the safest way to prevent ruination of one's life is to avoid the institution in the first place. Thank you, and good day...