Guys,
These articles are almost a dime a dozen now; it's getting
to the point where I could almost devote an entire blog to them! Maybe
that's a bit of an exaggeration, but not much of one. I could certainly
run more pieces like this, because they're so plentiful. Now sit back,
open a cold one, and enjoy some schadenfreude with me as we
listen to these Western skanks lament the dearth of men that they so RIGHTFULLY deserve! May they always get the man they deserve-none.
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Foreign women label Beijing a dating wasteland
By Erik Nilsson (China Daily)
Updated: 2006-11-11 08:46
As China's expatriate population grows, many foreign women looking for love are saying this is the wrong place to meet Mr Right.
That's because any DECENT man, any man who could be Mr. Right, doesn't want anything to do with these skanks!
These dreamboats have sailed to cleaner waters that offer better fishing-duh!
You don't know
one foreign man who's single; many expat women you know ARE single. Do
you think that there might there be a connection there? Just
wondering...
Minnikin, a
research and development specialist for a human resource development
company who has lived in China for two years, said the reason there
aren't many available foreign men is simple: "There are a lot of Chinese
women; they're available, and they have a lot to offer."
Ding,
ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding! We have a winner!
Miss Minnikin gets it right! Chinese women, when compared to their
Western counterparts, DO have a lot to offer. It's akin to comparing a
BMW to a beat up Yugo-IOW, no comparison whatsoever.
The
dating problem of China's forlorn foreign females has become a hot
topic on online forums for expatriate such as www.thatsbj.com and
http://asiaxpat.com. Threads with titles such as "Why foreign women will
NEVER have a dating scene" and "How can a woman find a man?" are
becoming increasingly popular.
Why will a foreign woman
never have a dating scene? That's easy; they're uber BITCHES, that's
why! Now that these womens' countrymen have seen what real women are
like, they want NO PART of their female homies. You'd think that these
stupid bitches would put 2+2 together, wouldn't you? Wouldn't you
figure that they'd see that there's-gasp-a REASON why they're single,
while their fellow countrymen are not?
"I
have lived in Asia for about four years now and know how tall blondes
are treated by a lot of the men here," said MTGirl, who posted on a
"Frustrated woman" thread on thatsbj.com's Love and Dating forum.
"Although that has not turned me into a man-hater, I find the situation
frustrating."
Aw, what's the matter, Sweet Pee? You can't
handle the fact that you're no longer the center of attention like you
were back home? You know, THIS is the life your countrymen have lived
all their lives! Ah, but it was all right when the shoe was on their
foot; now that it's on yours, it's unfair and frustrating?! Come on!
Cry me a river, Darlin'! It's nice to see you get a taste of the
medicine you've dished out to good guys all your lives back home. How
does it feel, hmmm?
Offline,
MTGirl is Juanita Hartman, 33, who came to Beijing from Ellensburg,
Washington, as a research fellow studying Chinese history at Peking
University.
Ah, now we know a little more about MTGirl.
She's a research fellow, which means she's an academic; since she's a
female academic, that means she's STEEPED in feminism; she's a man
hater, extraordinaire. Is it any wonder why she doesn't have a man?!
Her attitude is so toxic that men can practically see it! I've been
around these women, and the aura of misandry surrounding them is so
strong that it may as well be physically visible.
She says that even though foreign men in Beijing are available, she has seen that they are likelier to seek local women.
Behind
Door #1, we have someone who is: 1) cute; 2) intelligent; 3) can talk
about more than who won American Idol; 4) has domestic skills; 5)
gasp-likes men! Or, behind Door #2, an expat man can have a woman who
is: 1) a raging feminazi; 2) dumb & clueless; 3) can't talk about
anything other than the latest celebrity gossip; 4) has NO domestic
skills whatsoever; 5) hates men and everything about them. Gee, what
should I pick? I know, I know; it's a difficult decision-not! How
stupid can Western women be?!
"It
really doesn't bother me that they overlook expat women," Hartman said.
"What bothers me are the looks of disdain I get when I'm out and about.
That
begs an obvious question: how many contemptuous looks of disdain did
you give to men back home, hmmm? Another question I have to ask is
this: how do you like having the shoe on YOUR foot, Darlin'? How do you
like being on the receiving end of what you dished out to us all those
years? You know what I have to say to that? Tough! Welcome to my
life, Sweetheart!
"Men look away when eye contact is made," she said. "I'm not drop-dead gorgeous, but I'm not butt-ugly, either.
Just
like you looked away from men when you were back home-especially when
you were young, hot, and desireable. Oh, and while you may not be
butt-ugly on the outside, you ARE butt-ugly on the inside! Now that
your fellow countrymen have seen sane women overseas; now that your
fellow countrymen have been around women who don't hate and fear them;
they can see just how TOXIC you are! Is it any wonder men turn away
from you in disgust?!
"Living
in China for about four years has given me great insight to who I am
and what I want. Part of that self-discovery has been that I haven't had
a steady boyfriend and had to struggle through comparing myself to
these beautiful, petite Chinese girls.
You ALMOST had a
glimmer of understanding here-almost! But, you couldn't follow all the
way through with it, could you? While the Chinese women are nice to
look at, that's not all that's appealling about them. Their nice
exteriors catch our eyes, while their nicer personalities, their nicer
interiors, KEEP them...
"I am
176 centimetres tall and often felt like a bull in a china shop - no
pun intended. I have come to terms with the way I look and the way I am
built. I am more confident because of this experience."
Uh,
you don't sound that confident to me-not when you were talking about
having to compare yourself to those pretty, petite Chinese girls. The
nicer packaging Chinese girls come in catches our eyes; the superior
CONTENTS of said packaging KEEPS them. You might want to think about
that, Darlin'! It's not your face; it's not your body; it's your
attitude...
For China's lonely "laowai" ladies, it seems the problem is a matter of not only the quantity of men, but also the quality.
Translation:
there are no 'hawt' bad boys chasing these skanks! They no longer have
their pick of the litter, and they're pissed.
Many
foreign women complain that the fabric of the men who are attracted to
the expatriate lifestyle is too often different from that of good dating
material.
"Beijing
seems to attract only certain types of guys: English-teacher types
straight out of college who just want to have fun, ladder-climbing
executive types and a bunch of weirdoes," said Emily Patterson, 23, of
Cleveland, Ohio, who works as a reporter for a Chinese magazine in
Beijing. "You don't want a college guy. Maybe the executive type is
already married, busy or boring. And of course, you don't want to date a
weirdo.
Weirdo = nice guy who this American woman finds
boring, a guy to whom she is NOT sexually attracted; this is the kind of guy she'd call 'creepy' back home. The
executive, even if he isn't married, is going to have many, many much
better options; he'll be able to get someone younger, hotter, and nicer
than this American bitch. Finally, this Emily Patterson resents the
fact that, for once in her life, the roles are reversed; for once in her
life, guys her age are wanted; she's not; and she can't STAND the
reversal of fortune! Aw, you want me to cry for you now or later?
"At
home, maybe you meet a hundred nice, normal, single, socially, capable
guys, and you have feelings for one or two. Here you meet five normal
guys, and there's such a small chance that one of them is the one you
want."
What did I tell you?! What did I tell you?! She
no longer has the pick of the litter, and now she's
pissed-waaaaaaaaahhhh! Cry me a river, Darlin'...
Hartman
agrees: "I think the main problem in Beijing is that most of the men
here I wouldn't touch back home, so why would I here?"
Uh,
Miss Hartman, now that these men have seen and experienced REAL women,
they're asking themselves the same question! They're asking themselves
what they EVER saw in toxic women like you.
Oh, and before you
dismiss these men as being of low or no quality, here's something to
think about, Darlin': even though there is a shortage of females in
China, expat men have no problem finding themselves one! Thanks to
China's one child per family policy, many girl babies haven't been
allowed to live; they were never born, or they were killed shortly after
birth because the families deemed boys to be more useful. This has
resulted in a shortage of Chinese women for the available, eligible,
local men. To put it in words you, the vapid, shallow Western bitch
would understand, that means that there are millions of more Chinese men
vs. women; there's a huge surplus of Chinese men vis a vis women.
According
to your logic, your countrymen shouldn't have a prayer! However, these
expat men, your countrymen, are not only adding to this demographic
imbalance; they are in COMPETITION with the local boys, and they have no
problem finding themselves a woman-wow! How could they do that if they
were of such low quality? How could they find a local woman at all
when the local, Chinese women can have their pick of men? Could it be
that the countrymen you so blithely and cavalierly dismiss aren't so low
quality after all? Could it be that your countrymen are really good
guys? Could it be that it's your selection criteria that needs a
reality check?! Nah, that couldn't be it, because you're a 'goddess',
and goddesses can never do any wrong, right?
Like
many expatriate women in China, Hartman believes that while "a few"
laowai guys in China are worthwhile men, capable of establishing solid
relationships, many come here to get a badly needed ego boost.
Here
we have an over the hill, past her expiration date, man hating feminazi
academic talking about fragile egos?! Come on! She can't handle the
fact that she's no longer the cat's meow like she was back home, and she
can't stand it.
"The
majority of men come here because they have issues back home ... or they
just can't get a woman back home for a number of reasons," she said.
"They come here because they become a big fish in a little pond; they
become very important and sought after."
Damn right we
have issues back home-a dearth of decent women! We have issues with the
shallow, vapid, filthy, dumb, clueless, disease ridden skanks from
which we get to pick. We have issues with being sold a rotten, shit
sandwich, while being told that it's filet mignon! We have issues with
paying a Ferrari price for a beat up Yugo. If that's having issues,
then we plead guilty as charged, your honor...
Oh, and guys who
took assignments in China probably did so for other reasons besides
women. They took them to take advantage of the travel opportunity this
would offer them. They took advantage of a once in a lifetime chance to
see a unique place many of us never even get to VISIT during our lives!
Why wouldn't a young, single guy take advantage of the opportunity to
not only visit China, but actually LIVE there?! That's the mindset I
had when I was offered assignment to Pearl Harbor during my Navy days.
Ah,
but when your countrymen got to China, they had their eyes opened; they
saw something that they'd never, ever seen before: sane, happy,
reasonable, intelligent, and pretty women who actually LIKED them-wow!
Not only that, the Chinese women treated your countrymen with dignity
and respect-something you never gave them back home, my dear. I know,
because I speak from experience here.
I remember when I was in
the Navy, and we were on our way home from our Mediterranean Sea
deployment. Before we went through the Straits of Gibraltar though, we
made a call on Palma de Mallorca. I remember going to a local laundry
to do my clothes; it would be the last chance I had for weeks to do my
own laundry. Anyway, I met some local girls out and about. One of my
buddies was trying to ditch them, so I took them off his hands.
After
finishing my laundry, I and these three local girls sat down at a
nearby streetside cafe. We, all of whom were strangers, laughed,
talked, and enjoyed one another's company; it was a night to remember!
Even though this was back in 1984, before American women became totally
toxic, it occurred to me that this had NEVER, ever happened to me back
home, nor was it ever likely to. I could tell many stories like this!
Once I went overseas, I had no problem meeting women at all. It was
quite the eye opener for me-just like it is for the countrymen you so
blithely dismiss, Miss Hartmann. Just another little something to think
about, Darlin'...
For these
reasons, these women see the pool of single, dateable foreign men more
as a small puddle. And they don't consider dating locals a viable
option.
Sheesh, how STUPID can American women be?!
Really, how stupid can they be? They have the same, unrealistic
standards that they have back home, even though they're in a weaker
bargaining position! Think about it; these Western chicks are competing
against the Chinese women; the men have options, so their standards
need a reality check-duh. The countrymen they so casually dismiss as
being undateable have no problem finding local, Chinese women-women who
are smarter, sweeter, and prettier than they are! You'd think that
Western women would see the competition, and realize that they need to
settle for a regular guy, not some romance novel fantasy archetype that
they have in their silly, little heads, but no. Even without options,
Western women STILL have the same, crazy standards that they always had!
Again, how stupid can someone be?! Sorry, but I just can't wrap my
arms round the illogic in that.
Oh, BTW, the local Chinese men
don't see you toxic, Western bitches as a viable option either. You're
NOT a viable option to any man who has a brain and loves himself the
least little bit! Get a grip, Ladies! While you're at it, get over
yourselves too.
"Women need to communicate more, so for women who don't speak Chinese, we don't have as many options as men," said Minnikin.
You realize the what while missing the WHY! You're so close, yet so far...
There are cultural barriers, as well.
Mainly
a culture that doesn't condone, let alone encourage, bad behavior of
women. You think that that might have a little something to do with it?
"Most
Chinese guys are really shy," Patterson said. "They work really long
hours and don't come out to bars and parties, which is where you usually
meet people."
That's because, at the end of a long day,
these guys have no ENERGY to go out, Miss Patterson! I know, because I
work a lot myself. I've been working 50-60 hour weeks as of late; I
start @ 0730 in the morning, and my day ends @ 1800-if I don't stay
late, something I do on occasion. By the time I get home, I'm pooped.
Oh, BTW, I have to fix supper, do dishes, laundry, and stuff like that.
There are only so many hours in a day-sheesh! I don't know about my
Chinese counterparts, but when my day ends, all I want to do is go home
and relax...
Josh Bernstein,
21, of Phoenix, Arizona, has organized an informal singles group and has
seen first-hand the difficulties faced by Western women interested in
Chinese men.
The
singles party he hosted a week ago attracted more than 20 Chinese women,
four Western women, 10 foreign men and two Chinese men.
He
said that while the foreign men ignored the Western girls, the Chinese
men struck up conversation with them. But in the end, it was only talk.
Yeah,
that's because, after talking to the Western girls, the Chinese guys
figured out in minutes that they're filthy, shallow, vapid, not to
mention toxic, bitches. They realized that they don't WANT any of that,
thank you kindly...
"These
foreign girls, even though they talk to the guys who they are interested
in and think are interested in them, the Chinese guys seem to be too
shy or too worried about saving face to make a move," Bernstein said.
"They're afraid of making a mistake because of cultural differences. A
lot of Chinese guys don't know about foreign girls and don't know how to
approach them."
Uh, Mr. Mangina, if what you say is true,
then riddle me this: how the HELL has China managed to become the
world's most POPULOUS country, hmmm? If what you say is true, then
these Chinese men shouldn't be meeting, let alone mating with, women.
Nevertheless, these same Chinese guys have managed to do so much mating
that China as the most people on Earth. How does something like that
happen, Mr. Mangina? Care to tell me, you idiot? You'd think that,
after having seen superior women, that this idiot wouldn't stick up for
his nasty, bitchy countrywomen...
Hartman, for one, said she has given up on the dating scene, and believes it's for the best.
"I
came to the conclusion that whatever happens will happen" she said. "I
could find the love of my life here and have a great story to tell, but I
could also return home alone.
Uh, let me save you some
suspense, Miss Hartman; you WILL return home alone! The only stories
you'll have to tell are how those low quality guys ignored you, yet
ended up with those pretty, petite Chinese girls...
"Either way, I am still learning about myself, and isn't living abroad all about the learning experience?"
Yeah,
but will you learn the right lessons? That's the question! Somehow, I
doubt it. You won't be able to shake your goddess complex, so you'll
pin the blame on everything and everyone but where it truly belongs-with
YOU...
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I don't know what to say, other
than I cannot make this up; my imagination isn't that good! These
stupid, shallow women make my job easy though. It's easier than
shooting fish in a barrel. Until next time...
MarkyMark
