Folks,
This my comment to a video on the YouTube Channel, Lily's Stories. This isn't my original comment; it's in response to someone else's comment. Below is Krissa990's comment in color, along with my response without color.
Here's the video.
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Daniel did wrong when he took almost all of their shared assets for himself..even if he may have had legal rights to them due to prenup,it was morally wrong to take almost all their shared assets..she didnt do anything that bad that it would morally justify that,although I wont blaim him for not being able to accept the circumstances and wanting a divorce,but to leave her penniless was wrong and unfair. To tell all the people around them about all the circumstances is something that could have been left out too in my view.
I have no problem with Daniel asking the question and him leaving her; my problem is timing. If I were seeking marriage and family (At 63, I'm not, but play along here), that's something a guy would want to know early on. I'd get a general idea of her number early on, and I'd walk away if I didn't like the answer. Waiting till your second anniversary is WAY TOO LATE! That's something that should've been discerned early in dating.
Secondly, I think that divorce should only happen as a last resort; I think that one should have a good, solid reason for breaking up a marriage, family, and home. If one is going to follow the Bible strictly, only adultery is permitted for divorce. Even if one wants to expand that to spousal abuse, substance abuse, and adultery, what happened here isn't exactly covered. I totally get his disgust over her promiscuity, but he should've found that out long before they even became exclusive as a couple, let alone engaged, and forget about married!
What would be interesting is having Daniel's side of the story. We don't know if he asked about this early on in the relationship; we don't know if he made any attempts to discern the number. Did he look at her friends closely? How did she dress? How did she live her life before him? Answers to those questions, while not yielding an exact number, would at least tell any intelligent and discerning guy whether or not the number was too high. We only have her side of the story; goodness only knows what she left out. As the Fella once said, there are three sides to every story: my side, your side, and the truth.
Oh, and I have one final question: WTF didn't she READ the prenup? NEVER sign any important legal documents without the help of a lawyer! It seems to me that she could have challenged the prenup in court; she could have cited duress os grounds. If Daniel had dropped the prenup on her right before the wedding, that could open the door to a challenge as well. With all that in mind, it's her fault for not reading the prenup, and it was her fault for not negotiating the terms. That's on her.
In closing, I see both parties as being at fault here; while I see her as more of the villain in this story, Daniel isn't innocent. He should've found out her number early on while dating, and if he didn't like the number, then leave at that point. She was in the wrong for being such a 304. As I said, both of them are at fault in this story.
